Reunion: Too Bad, So Sad

As many of my classmates (high school) know, our upcoming 10 year reunion has REALLY mattered to me.  I don't know why, but I wanted it to be festive, to appeal to all the classmates, to have a great turn out.  I have stayed friends with classmates of every type, and I really enjoy catching up with them.  I've tried hard to keep a solid list of contact information for classmates (and have a smashing list, if I do say so myself), make sure we're connected via Facebook, etc.  Two years out from reunion time, I even made a poll about reunion options to really get a feel for what classmates wanted.  The results of the poll were surprising, and no one wanted a classic reunion.  That was fun news!

But ALAS, we made very bad officer choices.  The person I suspect (due to her e-mails telling me to take my professional event planning experience and shove it, she's planning it herself, because she's an OFFICER like it's actually something that carries weight with adults) is taking over the planning was not President, but is running the show.  When I informed her that I receive an e-mail from a classmate almost every day asking about reunion updates (because so many are out of state and have to make long-term plans, etc.), she was nice enough to tell me that her husband's reunion is this year and they still haven't received info, so for me to be aware that "it could be a lot worse."  Really?  No, I don't think it could.  A reunion planner whose excuse for doing nothing is "it could be worse" is pretty bad.

Also, we have the issue of the "planner" being totally disconnected from everything the class has expressed wanting in a reunion.  So she may just realize she has no attendees, other than her friends, and that's not a class reunion, that's a party you threw yourself.  And no one wants to pay to come see you hang out with your personal friends.

So, Northwest High School Class of 2001, raise a glass to the class in your own home, because that's the most fun you're gonna have. :)

I'll do my best to get together with small groups here and there to catch up with everyone around our 10 year mark anyway...and that will be wonderful.


Many apologies things aren't happening as planned!

N'Awlins, ya'll.

Yesterday, I booked flights and hotel for our 1st anniversary (October) trip to New Orleans - neither of us have been there, and I am pretty excited!

I had a companion certificate for Delta, so our flights were only $150 each - good deal.  And I originally booked a room at the Saint Louis hotel in the French Quarter - I booked because they had a fantastic government rate online.  I added in the comments that Wes would bring along his Cobb Fire ID.  I got a phone call telling me they only give the government rate to those with a government credit card....please explain to me how that makes sense?  Police, firefighters, teachers, and all of those in the armed services - those are our public servants, but NONE of them get government credit cards.  The only people with those are politicians!  I was highly annoyed and canceled with them.  The Saint Louis is a 2.5-Star hotel.  Just to be crafty, I went on Priceline and did name-your-own-price, 4-Star hotels, French Quarter, for a few dollars LESS (total) than the Saint Louis would have cost us - and got a room at the Marriott.  HA!  Talk about a trade up!  So we're staying here:

Things we'll do...

Breakfast at Cafe Du Monde...

A stroll through the Garden District (amazing homes)...

The Cathedral...

Possibly some jazz...

 And definitely just enjoying the French Quarter.

Getting my bad day out so I have room for a good one.

Blogs are good for ranting.  You can get it all out.  The beginning of this week has just been annoying, in multiple small ways.  If I get out the reasons, I will consider them NOT inside me anymore, and that should help.

#1. I do not like it when people take advantage of me.  Poor, poor, pitiful me, right?  It's mostly my own fault.  In my efforts to plan events and help others (for free, when I should be getting paid for some of them), I have offered to do a great deal for others, and they seem to think it's OK to walk all over me.  Well, I'm going to stand up for myself and gracefully bow out of the situation.  When I offer to do someone a gigantic favor that requires a great deal of time, and they are selfish enough to make me miserable, there's really something wrong.

#2. I need to have A and B list friends right now.  I have some friends I really want to be A list people - you know what I mean.  Friends who care about me and Wes, ask off work to be with us for a special event instead of just bowing out, get a sitter instead of just bowing out, get in the car and drive 45 minutes for a birthday if needed (and don't complain about it!), spend some bucks to go to a great event with us, etc.  Because we'd do all of these things and more for the people we care about. Here's another situation where we are getting a little walked on.  We are willing to go to pretty great lengths for the people in our lives - celebrating birthdays, housewarmings, etc.  We'll take time off work.  We'll travel.  We'll spend money.  But when we could really use some love, regardless of what we've tried to give, we get a bunch of cancellations, people saying they're coming and then somehow forgetting to get a sitter or ask off work, or people who don't bother to RSVP at all.  All of these things are, to me, being a bad friend.  They're rude, and selfish.  If you're just not an A friend, don't pretend to be.  Be a B friend - the type of friend who comes around occasionally when it's convenient for you.  But - and be clear on this - do NOT expect us to come around for your celebrations and happenings, regardless of how important they are to you, because you had more important things to do when ours were happening.  I can sense it now - you don't show up to support us, but when we simply say "no" to your birthday event, you'll be hurt.  Why?  Is your birthday or other celebration that much more meaningful and important than ours was?  

If you're going to be a B friend to us, we're going to be the same right back.  But those few who are willing to be A friends to us will get that love back in large measures, and I think it's worth it.

Point being - I keep getting disappointed in those B friends when I really want them to be A's.  I need to just realize they are what they are, and that's just social acquaintances, not friends.

#3. Speaking of RSVP's, that's a rant in itself - if someone takes the time to invite you to something, it's OK to say No if you can't attend (or are a B friend and are honest), but to send NO reply at all or simply to leave yourself a Maybe is just rude.  Or to not take the 90 seconds it takes to log into Evite or Facebook and change a response - is your time really that much more valuable than mine?  For the 2 minutes you might save by not logging in to politely provide an accurate RSVP, it takes me 10 minutes of e-mails, messages, or texts to ask you if you're still coming, etc.  Rude.

#4. There will be people who read this and get mad at me, because they know they're part of these problems.  They will either send me a mean e-mail, or remove me from their Facebook friends, or decide to not speak to me at all.  Because they know they're guilty of something, and they're defensive about it.  (That may be a C list of friends - those who know they do something that hurts someone, but either (A) defend themselves and try to explain why their actions are OK or (B) don't care - that may be even worse than those just content to be acquaintances and nothing more.)  I am not unreasonable, and I don't consider someone to be hurtful until they've shown a pattern of hurtful behaviors (i.e. done it lots of times).  If that's you and you're feeling offended, check yourself instead of being angry with me for being honest about it.


I feel a little cleansed, now that all of that is out.  I want to get it out of my heart for now, and hope that the little mini-wounds they all cause will heal, and we all move on better.


To end on a happy note, I'm thinking of things that make me feel better.

Dessert

Shopping (might do this at lunch)

Reading (currently buried in "The Egyptian" and learning quite a lot about ancient Egypt)

The Hot Air Balloon Festival at Callaway Gardens next weekend - going with my parents and Wes.

Looking forward to our anniversary trip to New Orleans, which I booked yesterday!

New friends who could possibly become A friends?

Good karma, or luck, or blessings, or whatever you like to call it - despite the small wounds created by the issues ranted about above, we seem to have such good luck finding things we need, budgeting money so that we prosper, and being able to let small upsets roll off our backs and become something better in the end (i.e. broken computer, plans getting canceled, etc.) - I'm not sure why, but as a couple, me and Wes have great luck in most areas of life.

Going to UUCA when they have a good talk (the talk about friendships two weeks ago was very good, and we got to sing the song from Golden Girls!)

Christmas - I am already thinking ahead, is that bad?

Recap.

I have returned to Georgia - as a state, I must say I like Georgia more than Alabama.  Things feel more current. 

But, as a school, the University of Alabama (Tuscaloosa) is really great.  I didn't expect to like it, but was very impressed.  The campus isn't too big to like, but doesn't feel crowded.  The students are very nice, and are always out in the open to socialize.  Parking and the bus system were both easy instead of hard.  The departments handle a huge student population, but really have it together.  The campus itself is kept up much better than any other big school I've seen...even the Greek houses are beautiful and clean.  There's an air of southern grace to it, instead of an air of redneckish football love only.  I am SURE the campus has its downfalls, but I really liked it.

I am very much enjoying being back in school so far - I needed a new challenge, and this is something I care about.  There will be a few classes I'm not as into - or maybe not as into NOW, because many in the program say they learned that they enjoy certain things unexpectedly.  Graduate school is definitely already tougher than undergrad, but I think it's a good thing.

I also (hopefully) met quite a few people I can network with - should be valuable in the future.

It was HOT in Tuscaloosa.  It could have been worse, but you still couldn't be outside for more than 5 minutes without sweating. 

I am about to be a very busy girl - not as much free time anymore!

Second day in Tuscaloosa...

Long day. 
Loads of information. 
Brain mushy. 
Hot and humid in Tuscaloosa, but could be worse. 
Campus is extremely sprawling,with one really pretty tree-lined avenue with pretty buildings on either side.  Too large a place to walk much. 
Nice and interesting folks in my cohort. 

This building is on campus and survied the Civil War and the burning of the south.  Lovely.

This is the library, where my department is headquartered.  Got to explore the book binding rooms - love.

And for all those football fans, the stadium, where I will not be going, but am around it all the time here.  I may come back for a game.

I am so exhausted I didn't even stop at the Krispy Kreme (hot now sign on!) OR the Dippin' Dots shop.  That is exhaustion, folks.

Another (longer) day tomorrow. 

Notes on my 1st day in Tuscaloosa.

Disclaimer: I am not staying in Tuscaloosa for school, I am only here for a 4-day orientation and 1-hour credit class.  However, it's always interesting being a new place, right?

On my way through Alabama, I passed a section of interstate with a huge mosque and a BMW dealership side-by-side.  These things don't fit in Alabama to me.  Fireworks stores - those fit.

Talladega Speedway is really big.  I have never been to a Nascar race.  I want to go to one. 

I would like to go here on my way back, but don't think I have time: http://desotocavernspark.com/

Tuscaloosa is not very impressive so far.  Just like any other small town with a one-story mall.  Maybe on-campus will be nicer?

My hotel room is very new -comfy bed, nice TV, etc.  But I got the handicap-accessible room, so my mirrors can be tilted and moved all over the place, and the shower is huge and walk-in, with a seat.  That's just asking for a lazy shower, but may be good for shaving legs.  There's also a drain in the middle of the whole bathroom floor, so I plan to brush my teeth and wash my face with abandon and just let the water go down the middle-floor drain.  Because I can.

At my fingers!

I've been thinking lately about my feeling bored.  I am slightly frustrated with just being HERE.  I like Atlanta, love many things about it. 

But - you know how you feel if you have your favorite dessert on the counter, but you can't touch it?  Imagine you're not on a diet, it's just out of the oven, and it's within you arm's reach.  But you're not eating it, just because you're doing other things, and you're irritated.

That's how I feel about the world.  Many people feel like international travel and other cultures are so far from them and so challenging to experience that they're nowhere near doing it.  For some reason, I feel the opposite.  I feel like the entire world is my backyard.  Easy to get to, great to experience.  And yet, I'm not out there. 

It's annoying.

I am making a long-term plan of places to visit - the first three being places we might move to in a few years' time.  While I am enjoying many things about my present, I am looking forward to getting out there into the big wide world very soon.

I relate so much to Elizabeth Gilbert in "Eat, Pray, Love" - while in Italy, she encountered someone who was traveling to various places, and she was jealous of their travels while she was traveling herself - I am like that.  The world's a big, beautiful place.  I want to see it all.

Next on the list - here.