Do you ever see couples that just seem especially in love? They seem supremely comfortable within their own skins, and within their "couple-ness", but they also don't seem lazy and complacent, they seem to really enjoy their lives and their relationship. They seem content and excited at the same time. They celebrate positives and don't let negatives get to them.
I've seen couples like this, and I always hope that we can turn out like that. That's not to say we aren't basically like that now, but of course we're not perfect. When I see couples I really admire, I ask myself what they have that makes them so great - what's that special something?
I am sure there are lots of special somethings about successful couples, but I really think I know what one something is - the ability to laugh at yourself.
I see couples all around me who take themselves so seriously. We all have flaws, and if we aren't able to laughingly admit that, we'll never be very happy. I am no where near perfect. But I know my flaws, and I can laugh at myself, and that makes me a much happier person. For example, I know my tendency to expect a LOT of my friends, and therefore to have less friends. And sure, that makes life hard sometimes. But when my expectations are met and exceeded, I am really joyful. It's a flaw of sorts, but I don't dislike myself, and I have to laugh at myself when I might want to take myself far too seriously. Wes is still learning to laugh at himself. When I see a couple that knows they're not perfect as individuals or as a couple, but they can smile about their bumps in the road, I know they're strong. That's a special something, in my eyes.
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